Sometimes, in order to divert attention, we just pick a fight.
It might be because my husband criticized me, and I’m feeling offended and defensive. I want to draw the attention to his faults to avoid having to think about my own. It might be because I’m mad at my dad, and I just want any excuse to yell at him. It might be because I’m mad at the dog, and I’m taking it out on my brother. Or it might be because I really don’t want to have to do the dishes, so I’m going to yell at my husband for something until he forgets he asked me to help him clean the kitchen.
If you find the conversation escalating, stop and think for a second. Is this fight going to solve anything? Because if it’s not, you might as well just go yell in an empty room for a while. It’ll accomplish just as much, without damaging any relationships. ♦